how to
Create an Account
Open menu

Defensive

This post first appeared on Piping Rock. All content is theirs.

No one likes always being on edge. If you're defensive, read these tips.

Do you keep finding yourself meeting someone's kind feedback with force? What if a loved one comments something innocently, only to find you spew back some rude phrase? If either of these situations are all too familiar to you, you may be dealing with defensive reactions. While to you it may seem like they protect you, in the end, they cause more problems. So, let's go through a few ways you can cut the reactions that hurt others (and yourself) today. 

 

CALM DOWN:

Defensive

First, it's important to breathe. When you get defensive, it's not unrealistic that your heart rate will increase, leading you to pump out adrenaline. The result will be heightened emotions and less control over yourself. 

If you're out, at work, or even at dinner with someone, our Lavender Essential Oil Roll-On is perfect to spread on your wrists, breathe in for a few seconds, and help instill feelings of peace/serenity. This aromatherapy tactic can help you become your level-headed self again.

 

ASSESS YOUR FEELINGS:

Defensive

Before you jump to confrontation, think about your own feelings first. Why are you feeling this way? Is the anger from the current situation, or something deeper? More than likely the reason you're feeling defensive comes from an experience or failure that you're sensitive to now. Remind yourself this isn't that situation, and approach it more openly. 

 

DON'T USE "YOU" WORDS:

defensive

No one enjoys being told that they are x, y, or z. Avoid using "Well you..." or "You're" statements, and instead say, "I feel" or "In my experience". This will alleviate the feeling of attack on someone, and bring everyone's guard down to get to a better solution.

 

ASK QUESTIONS, INSTEAD OF ASSUME:

When someone else does something wrong, you want to confront them to get answers, right? The same thing applies here. Whether someone is providing feedback, or a significant other is asking to talk, it means they are seeking understanding and wanting to get a solution. If you keep guarding yourself, you aren't being fair to their needs. Ask them "Why do you feel this way?" or "How can I improve?". Be open to their suggestions...you'd want them to be open to yours if the shoe was on the other foot, right?

 

Like it? Pin it!

Defensive

XOX Signature
Name(*)
Invalid Input
Email(*)
Invalid Input
Please tell us why do you think this post or page is inappropriate:(*)
Invalid Input
Captcha(*)
Invalid Input

  • report post
Use-Honey-App-For-Shipping-Banner.jpg
scissor divider

You may also like:

leave_comment

Add comment

Submit
About-Me-Ashley-Drewes-March2019.png
Telegram Amazon Deals Closetsamples
Kellogg's Boycott 2024: Budget Meal Ideas that Cost Less than Cereal!
ClosetSamples donate button
 Popular-Deal-Searches-Closetsamples-Oct1029.png
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update adult deals
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update back to school
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update travel deals
Closetsamples-Sidebar-Button-2022-Update-blog-resources.png
Closetsamples-Sidebar-Button-2022-Update-christmas.png
Closetsamples-Sidebar-Button-2022-Update-easter.png
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update gift guides
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update halloween
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update just pay shipping
Closetsamples Sidebar Button 2022 Update Pride
special offers
healthywage
Allure Beauty Box
Diamond wedding Band
Nutrisystem
Save Money and Live Better When You Try These Money Saving Tips
scissors
closetsamples Digital Ashley Desktop Organizer Ad graphic design
scissors
Avon Coupons Discounts
scissors
Invest in the background of life with Acorns, and get a $20 bonus investment!
scissors
subscription box

scissors
cratejoy subscription boxes
scissors
California Wine Club
scissors
healthyutv discount deal
scissors
scissors
printable coupons
CouponSurfer Cash Back Rewards

MONEY SAVING DEALS

TIPS

Free Stuff

SPONSORED POSTS

COUPONS

Connect with us!
urthbox Subscription Box BUY ONE GET ONE FREE
Never miss an update. Subscribe today!
image

Disclosure Policy

 
This website was created and owned by Ashley & is based in the USA. While sometimes we do have posts that are internationally and worldwide, this is not often. Our target audience is in the USA so please keep this in mind when using this site. Please note that Closet of Free Samples does accept forms of cash advertising, sponsorship, paid insertions and/or other forms of compensation. Read More →

Sponsored Ads 

Aeroflow FREE Breast Pump